{"id":117514,"date":"2026-10-01T07:05:40","date_gmt":"2026-10-01T11:05:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bgodinspired.com\/?p=117514"},"modified":"2026-10-01T07:05:40","modified_gmt":"2026-10-01T11:05:40","slug":"pastor-appreciation-month","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bgodinspired.com\/index.php\/short-devotional\/pastor-appreciation-month\/","title":{"rendered":"Pastor Appreciation Month: Paul&#8217;s First Ask Wasn&#8217;t a Gift"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class='booster-block booster-read-block'>\n                <div class=\"twp-read-time\">\n                \t<i class=\"booster-icon twp-clock\"><\/i> <span>Read Time:<\/span>11 Minute, 15 Second                <\/div>\n\n            <\/div><p>The service ends. People hug, laugh, grab a coffee, and head home. And somewhere in the building, one person is still there. Stacking chairs. Turning off lights. Sitting down for a minute, alone, before the drive home.<\/p>\n\n<p>That person is often your pastor.<\/p>\n\n<p>October is <strong>Pastor Appreciation Month<\/strong> in many churches, especially in the United States. Searches for it climb every year as people look for gift ideas, card wording, and ways to say thank you. That is a good instinct. But long before there was a month for it, Paul wrote one short request to a young church about how to treat the people who lead them. And his first ask was not a gift at all.<\/p>\n\n<p>Whether your church marks October or not, this is for anyone who loves a tired leader and wants to help in a way that actually lands.<\/p>\n\n<h2>What Is Pastor Appreciation Month?<\/h2>\n\n<p>Pastor Appreciation Month is a season, usually October, when churches set aside time to thank the people who lead and care for them. Some churches give a card or a meal. Some say thank you from the front. Some do nothing, because nobody thought to plan it.<\/p>\n\n<p>Here is why it matters more than it might seem. The research group Barna has been asking pastors in the United States the same question for several years: have you seriously thought about quitting full-time ministry in the past year? In March 2022, the answer peaked at 42 percent. In Barna&#8217;s most recent survey, from December 2025, it had fallen to 24 percent, or about one in four. (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.barna.com\/trends\/pastors-quitting-ministry-barna-data\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Barna&#8217;s report<\/a>.)<\/p>\n\n<p>That is good news, and it is worth saying plainly. But Barna itself warns that the drop &#8220;does not indicate that pastors are suddenly thriving.&#8221; One in four is still a lot of tired people standing up front on Sunday.<\/p>\n\n<p>And Barna found one more thing that matters for everything below: pastors with stronger relational support are much less likely to think about leaving. Keep that in mind. Paul got there first.<\/p>\n\n<div class=\"convertkit-form wp-block-convertkit-form\" style=\"\"><script async data-uid=\"6491fb8269\" src=\"https:\/\/bgodinspired.kit.com\/6491fb8269\/index.js\" data-jetpack-boost=\"ignore\" data-no-defer=\"1\" data-no-optimize=\"1\" nowprocket><\/script><\/div>\n\n\n<h2>What Paul Actually Asked Churches to Do<\/h2>\n\n<p>Paul wrote 1 Thessalonians to a small, new church that was under real pressure. Near the end of the letter, he turns to how they should treat their leaders:<\/p>\n\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;And we beseech you, brethren, to know them which labour among you, and are over you in the Lord, and admonish you; And to esteem them very highly in love for their work&#8217;s sake. And be at peace among yourselves.&#8221; (1 Thessalonians 5:12-13, KJV)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n<p>Most people jump straight to &#8220;esteem them very highly.&#8221; That is the line on the Pastor Appreciation Month graphics. But read it slowly. Paul asks for four things, and they come in an order:<\/p>\n\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Know them.<\/strong><\/li>\n<li>Know the ones who <strong>admonish<\/strong> you, not just the ones who comfort you.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Esteem them very highly in love<\/strong>, for their work&#8217;s sake.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Be at peace among yourselves.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n<p>Each one says something we tend to miss.<\/p>\n\n<h2>&#8220;Know Them&#8221; Comes First<\/h2>\n\n<p>Before Paul says a word about honor, he says: know them.<\/p>\n\n<p>Not &#8220;know about them.&#8221; Not &#8220;know their sermons.&#8221; Know the person. The one who has a sore back, a teenager who won&#8217;t talk, a parent in hospital, a bad week they will never mention from the pulpit.<\/p>\n\n<p>It is strangely easy for a pastor to be known by hundreds of people and truly known by almost none. People see the role. They rarely see the person inside it. A pastor can shake every hand at the door and still go home lonely.<\/p>\n\n<p>So it is striking that Barna&#8217;s finding lines up so closely with Paul&#8217;s order. The thing most linked to pastors staying is not a bigger gift. It is relationship. Being known. Paul put that first nearly two thousand years ago, and the data is still pointing back to it.<\/p>\n\n<h2>The Ones Who Tell You Hard Things<\/h2>\n\n<p>Here is the line almost everyone reads past. Paul says to know the leaders who are &#8220;over you in the Lord, and admonish you.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n<p>To admonish means to warn or gently correct. Paul is not only asking the church to value the leader who makes them feel good. He is asking them to value the one who sometimes tells them what they did not want to hear.<\/p>\n\n<p>That is a hard ask. It is easy to love a pastor who preaches comfort. It is harder to love one who visited you and said, kindly, &#8220;I think you need to make that call to your brother.&#8221; Paul says: that person, too. Maybe especially that person.<\/p>\n\n<p>Appreciation that only shows up for the easy sermons is really just applause. Paul is asking for something deeper.<\/p>\n\n<h2>&#8220;For Their Work&#8217;s Sake,&#8221; Not Their Personality<\/h2>\n\n<p>Paul says to esteem leaders &#8220;very highly in love for their work&#8217;s sake.&#8221; Not because they are funny, or polished, or the best speaker in town. For their work.<\/p>\n\n<p>And the word Paul uses for that work is a tiring one. &#8220;Labour among you&#8221; uses the same Greek word family as the famous phrase &#8220;labour of love&#8221; from the first chapter of this same letter, a word for toil that wears a person out. We looked at that word closely in <a href=\"https:\/\/bgodinspired.com\/index.php\/bible-resources\/bible-themes\/labor-of-love-meaning\/\">Labor of Love Meaning: Paul Meant Love That Wears You Out<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n<p>This frees appreciation from being a popularity contest. You do not have to like everything about your pastor&#8217;s style to honor the work. The hospital visits at night. The funerals. The phone calls nobody else wanted to take. The work deserves love even on weeks when the sermon did not.<\/p>\n\n<h2>The Last Line Might Be the Best Gift: &#8220;Be at Peace Among Yourselves&#8221;<\/h2>\n\n<p>Look at where Paul ends. Right after &#8220;esteem them very highly in love for their work&#8217;s sake,&#8221; with no break, he says: &#8220;And be at peace among yourselves.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n<p>That placement is not an accident. One of the heaviest loads a pastor carries is not the work itself. It is the conflict. The quiet feud between two families. The complaint that travels around before it ever reaches the pastor&#8217;s ears. Barna points to rising conflict and division as part of what wore pastors down in recent years.<\/p>\n\n<p>Which means the kindest thing a church can give its pastor this October might not come in an envelope at all. It might be two members finally sitting down and making peace with each other, so the pastor does not have to carry it for them.<\/p>\n\n<h2>The Turn: Appreciation Looks Like Holding Up Arms<\/h2>\n\n<p>There is an old story in Exodus that shows what Paul is describing. During a battle, Moses stood on a hill with his hands raised. While his hands stayed up, Israel did well. When he got tired and they dropped, things went badly. Then this happened:<\/p>\n\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;But Moses&#8217; hands were heavy; and they took a stone, and put it under him, and he sat thereon; and Aaron and Hur stayed up his hands, the one on the one side, and the other on the other side; and his hands were steady until the going down of the sun.&#8221; (Exodus 17:12, KJV)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n<p>Notice what Aaron and Hur did not do. They did not give a speech about how great Moses was. They did not hand him a present and walk away. They found a stone so he could sit down. Then they stood next to him, one on each side, and held up his arms until sunset.<\/p>\n\n<p>That is what &#8220;know them&#8221; and &#8220;esteem them very highly in love&#8221; look like with skin on. Not applause from a distance. Someone close enough to notice the arms are getting heavy, and willing to stay.<\/p>\n\n<p>Here is the part that turns it around. Your pastor spends every week trying to show you grace, to see you as a person and not a problem. Pastor Appreciation Month is a chance to give that same grace back. To see a tired person as a person. That is the rest God gives, passed hand to hand.<\/p>\n\n<h2>Pastor Appreciation Month Ideas That Actually Help<\/h2>\n\n<p>None of these need money. All of them follow Paul&#8217;s order.<\/p>\n\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Write a specific note.<\/strong> Not &#8220;thanks for all you do.&#8221; Name one moment: &#8220;When you visited my mum in hospital in March, she talked about it for weeks.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li><strong>Ask a real question and listen.<\/strong> &#8220;How are you actually doing?&#8221; Then do not rush away. This is &#8220;know them&#8221; in practice.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Thank them for a hard word.<\/strong> If a sermon or a conversation challenged you and you grew from it, say so. Pastors rarely hear that.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Take one task off their plate.<\/strong> Stack the chairs. Lock up. Drive the visitor home. Be the stone Moses sat on.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Make peace with someone in the church.<\/strong> Quietly. It may be the best gift they never know about.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Pray for them by name.<\/strong> If you are not sure what to say, our free <a href=\"https:\/\/chatgpt.com\/g\/g-oF6EpV6Vs-prayer-anywhere-a-prayer-for-any-moment\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Prayer Anywhere AI assistant<\/a> (it opens in ChatGPT) can help you put words to a prayer for your pastor.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<p>And if you are a pastor reading this, worn thin and wondering if anyone notices: you are allowed to be tired. You might find <a href=\"https:\/\/bgodinspired.com\/index.php\/health-and-wellness\/what-is-emotional-exhaustion\/\">What Is Emotional Exhaustion? Why Rest Has to Come Twice<\/a> worth a few quiet minutes.<\/p>\n\n<h2>Actions to Take<\/h2>\n\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Send one specific sentence today.<\/strong> Text or write your pastor one line naming a real moment they helped you. It takes two minutes.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Ask, then listen.<\/strong> This Sunday, ask your pastor &#8220;How are you really doing?&#8221; and give them a full minute to answer without steering the talk back to you.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Carry one thing.<\/strong> Before you leave the building next time, find one job your pastor usually does alone and do it with them, or for them.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n<h2>Journaling Prompts<\/h2>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Do you know your pastor as a person, or mostly as a role? What is one thing about their life outside Sunday you have never asked about?<\/li>\n<li>Think of a time a leader told you something hard that turned out to be true. How did you respond to them then?<\/li>\n<li>Is there a quiet conflict in your church, or in your own heart, that someone else is carrying for you?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<h2>A Prayer for My Pastor<\/h2>\n\n<p><em>God, thank you for the person who stands up front and carries so much I never see. Forgive me for the times I saw only the role and forgot the person. Show me how to hold up their arms this week, not with big words, but by noticing and staying. Give them rest that runs deeper than a day off, and friends who truly know them. And help me be at peace with the people around me, so they have one less thing to carry. Amen.<\/em><\/p>\n\n<h2>Discussion Question<\/h2>\n\n<p>Which do you think helps a tired pastor more: a big gift from the whole church, or one person who truly knows them? Share what you think in the comments.<\/p>\n\n<div class=\"convertkit-form wp-block-convertkit-form\" style=\"\"><script async data-uid=\"6491fb8269\" src=\"https:\/\/bgodinspired.kit.com\/6491fb8269\/index.js\" data-jetpack-boost=\"ignore\" data-no-defer=\"1\" data-no-optimize=\"1\" nowprocket><\/script><\/div>\n\n\n<h2>Share This<\/h2>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Paul&#8217;s first ask for how to treat pastors wasn&#8217;t a gift. It was &#8220;know them.&#8221; (1 Thessalonians 5:12)<\/li>\n<li>Aaron and Hur didn&#8217;t give Moses a speech. They gave him a stone to sit on and held up his arms till sunset. That&#8217;s what appreciating your pastor looks like.<\/li>\n<li>Right after &#8220;esteem them very highly in love,&#8221; Paul wrote &#8220;be at peace among yourselves.&#8221; Maybe the best gift for your pastor this October is a church that isn&#8217;t fighting.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<h2>Questions and Answers About Pastor Appreciation Month<\/h2>\n\n<h3>When is Pastor Appreciation Month?<\/h3>\n<p>Pastor Appreciation Month is usually held in October, especially by churches in the United States. Churches in other countries may thank their pastors at other times of year. The Bible does not set a date; the instruction to honor church leaders in 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13 applies all year round.<\/p>\n\n<h3>What does the Bible say about appreciating your pastor?<\/h3>\n<p>In 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13, Paul asks churches &#8220;to know them which labour among you, and are over you in the Lord, and admonish you; And to esteem them very highly in love for their work&#8217;s sake.&#8221; He then adds, &#8220;And be at peace among yourselves.&#8221; The passage asks believers to know their leaders personally, value them even when they correct, honor their work, and keep peace in the church.<\/p>\n\n<h3>How many pastors have considered quitting?<\/h3>\n<p>According to Barna&#8217;s research among senior Protestant pastors in the United States, the share who had seriously considered leaving full-time ministry in the past year peaked at 42 percent in March 2022. In Barna&#8217;s December 2025 survey, that share had fallen to 24 percent. Barna notes the drop does not mean pastors are suddenly thriving.<\/p>\n\n<h3>What are good Pastor Appreciation Month ideas that cost nothing?<\/h3>\n<p>Good free ideas for Pastor Appreciation Month include writing a note that names one specific moment the pastor helped you, asking how they are really doing and listening, thanking them for a challenging sermon, taking a regular task off their hands, praying for them by name, and making peace with someone in the church so the pastor does not have to carry that conflict.<\/p>\n\n<h3>What is the story of Aaron and Hur holding up Moses&#8217; arms?<\/h3>\n<p>In Exodus 17, Moses held his hands up during a battle, and Israel prevailed while his hands stayed raised. When Moses grew tired, Aaron and Hur put a stone under him so he could sit, and held up his hands, one on each side, until sunset. 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