{"id":116026,"date":"2026-09-19T04:03:23","date_gmt":"2026-09-19T08:03:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bgodinspired.com\/?p=116026"},"modified":"2026-09-19T04:03:23","modified_gmt":"2026-09-19T08:03:23","slug":"what-does-the-bible-say-about-being-offended","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bgodinspired.com\/index.php\/what-jesus-teaches\/what-does-the-bible-say-about-being-offended\/","title":{"rendered":"What Does the Bible Say About Being Offended? It&#8217;s a Trap"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class='booster-block booster-read-block'>\n                <div class=\"twp-read-time\">\n                \t<i class=\"booster-icon twp-clock\"><\/i> <span>Read Time:<\/span>10 Minute, 54 Second                <\/div>\n\n            <\/div><p>It happens in about two seconds.<\/p>\n\n<p>A message lands. Someone left you out. Someone said a thing in front of everyone. Someone didn&#8217;t say thank you, again. And before you have decided anything, something in your chest has already snapped shut.<\/p>\n\n<p>By the evening you have replayed it ten times. You have written three replies you didn&#8217;t send. You are tired, and the other person is probably asleep.<\/p>\n\n<p>So what does the Bible say about being offended? More than you might expect. And the word it uses tells a story most of us have never heard. It isn&#8217;t a word about being hurt. It is a word about being caught.<\/p>\n\n<h2>What Does the Bible Say About Being Offended? Start With the Word<\/h2>\n\n<p>When the King James Bible says &#8220;offended&#8221; or &#8220;offence&#8221; in the New Testament, the Greek behind it is almost always one family of words: <em>skandalon<\/em> (the noun) and <em>skandalizo<\/em> (the verb). You can hear our word &#8220;scandal&#8221; in it.<\/p>\n\n<p>But the older picture is much more physical. Thayer&#8217;s Greek lexicon defines <em>skandalon<\/em> as &#8220;the movable stick or trigger of a trap, trap-stick; a trap, snare.&#8221; Strong&#8217;s describes it as &#8220;a trap-stick (bent sapling).&#8221;<\/p>\n\n<p>Picture a simple hunter&#8217;s snare. A young tree is bent down and held under tension. A small stick holds it there. Bait sits on that stick. An animal comes for the bait, touches the stick, and the whole thing springs.<\/p>\n\n<p>That little stick is the <em>skandalon<\/em>. It is not the thing that hurts you. It is the thing that sets off everything else.<\/p>\n\n<p>One honest note: by the time the New Testament was written, the word was mostly used in a wider sense, as &#8220;a trap&#8221; or &#8220;a stumbling block.&#8221; Writers weren&#8217;t picturing a trap-stick every time they used it. But the root picture is real, and once you see it, you notice how well it fits.<\/p>\n\n<p>Because that is exactly how offence feels. Something small touches you, and a lot of stored-up tension goes off at once.<\/p>\n\n<p>If you have been reading this and thinking, &#8220;that&#8217;s me, and I don&#8217;t know how to get free of it,&#8221; you don&#8217;t have to work it out alone.<\/p>\n\n<div class=\"convertkit-form wp-block-convertkit-form\" style=\"\"><script async data-uid=\"884942602c\" src=\"https:\/\/bgodinspired.kit.com\/884942602c\/index.js\" data-jetpack-boost=\"ignore\" data-no-defer=\"1\" data-no-optimize=\"1\" nowprocket><\/script><\/div>\n\n\n<h2>The Man With the Most Right to Be Offended<\/h2>\n\n<p>Now here is where the word shows up in a place that should stop us.<\/p>\n\n<p>John the Baptist had done everything right. He prepared the way. He pointed at Jesus and told his own followers to go after Him. And for his trouble, John ended up in a prison cell, because he told a powerful ruler the truth.<\/p>\n\n<p>From that cell, John sent a question.<\/p>\n\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;Now when John had heard in the prison the works of Christ, he sent two of his disciples, And said unto him, Art thou he that should come, or do we look for another?&#8221;<br><em>Matthew 11:2-3 (KJV)<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n<p>Read that slowly. This is the man who baptized Jesus. Now he is asking, &#8220;Are you really the one?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n<p>It is not hard to guess why. John had preached about a coming one who would set things right. And yet here John was, still locked up.<\/p>\n\n<p>Jesus sent back a list of what was happening: &#8220;The blind receive their sight, and the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, and the deaf hear, the dead are raised up, and the poor have the gospel preached to them&#8221; (Matthew 11:5). Those words echo promises in the book of Isaiah that John would have known well.<\/p>\n\n<p>Then Jesus added one more line, just for John:<\/p>\n\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me.&#8221;<br><em>Matthew 11:6 (KJV)<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n<p>The word for &#8220;offended&#8221; there is <em>skandalizo<\/em>. Jesus was saying, in effect: <strong>John, don&#8217;t let this spring the trap.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n<h2>The Line Jesus Left Out<\/h2>\n\n<p>Here is the detail almost everyone reads past.<\/p>\n\n<p>One of the best-known promises in Isaiah is Isaiah 61:1. It says the Anointed One would come &#8220;to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n<p>The opening of the prison. For a man sitting in a prison, that line would have meant everything.<\/p>\n\n<p>And it isn&#8217;t in the list Jesus sent back.<\/p>\n\n<p>We should be careful not to claim more than the text says. Jesus doesn&#8217;t explain the choice, and the list draws on more than one passage. But the gap is real, and John, who knew Isaiah, would likely have noticed it. The message seems to be: <em>the Kingdom is coming, it is real, and it may not open your door the way you hoped.<\/em><\/p>\n\n<p>That is the exact place where offence gets set. Not when God is absent. When God is present, and working, and still not doing the one thing you asked for.<\/p>\n\n<p>And notice what Jesus did next. Matthew says, &#8220;And as they departed, Jesus began to say unto the multitudes concerning John&#8221; (Matthew 11:7). Once the messengers had left, Jesus turned to the crowd and spoke about John with deep honour. He even called John more than a prophet (Matthew 11:9).<\/p>\n\n<p>Jesus didn&#8217;t answer John&#8217;s hard question with a scolding. He answered it with the truth, a blessing, and then, behind his back, praise.<\/p>\n\n<h2>Even Peter Was Called a Trap<\/h2>\n\n<p>This word shows up in another surprising place.<\/p>\n\n<p>In Matthew 16, Peter tells Jesus that He must not go to the cross. Jesus answers: &#8220;Get thee behind me, Satan: thou art an offence unto me: for thou savourest not the things that be of God, but those that be of men&#8221; (Matthew 16:23).<\/p>\n\n<p>&#8220;Offence&#8221; there is <em>skandalon<\/em>. Just a few verses after Jesus called Peter a rock, He told Peter he was being a trap-stick. A good friend, meaning well, was setting bait that could have pulled Jesus away from the path.<\/p>\n\n<p>That is a sobering thought. Offence doesn&#8217;t only come from enemies. Very often it comes from people who love us, and sometimes we are the ones setting the bait for someone else.<\/p>\n\n<h2>What the Bible Says About Offense in Proverbs<\/h2>\n\n<p>The Old Testament has been watching this pattern for a long time.<\/p>\n\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle.&#8221;<br><em>Proverbs 18:19 (KJV)<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n<p>Look at the picture. Bars. A castle. A walled city. An offended person doesn&#8217;t only get hurt, they get locked in. John was in a prison made of stone. Offence builds a prison out of memory.<\/p>\n\n<p>And here is the other side:<\/p>\n\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.&#8221;<br><em>Proverbs 19:11 (KJV)<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n<p>&#8220;To pass over&#8221; is walking past the bait. It doesn&#8217;t mean pretending nothing happened. It means seeing the stick, knowing what it is, and choosing not to put your weight on it.<\/p>\n\n<p>Psalm 119:165 says it even more simply: &#8220;Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.&#8221; Not &#8220;nothing will hurt them.&#8221; Nothing will trap them.<\/p>\n\n<h2>The Turn: You Are Not Being Wronged. You Are Being Caught.<\/h2>\n\n<p>Here is what shifts when you see the word this way.<\/p>\n\n<p>Most of us think of being offended as something that happens <em>to<\/em> us. Someone did a wrong thing, and our hurt is the proof. Sometimes that is true. People do real harm, and the Bible never asks you to call harm good.<\/p>\n\n<p>But the word Jesus used points somewhere else. It asks: <em>who is holding you now?<\/em> The person who spoke that sentence has moved on with their day. The trap is still closed around you.<\/p>\n\n<p>That is why &#8220;blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended&#8221; is not a rule. It is a rescue. Jesus wasn&#8217;t telling John to stop feeling. He was telling John, sitting in a real prison, not to let a second prison close around his heart.<\/p>\n\n<p>And the freedom Jesus offered wasn&#8217;t &#8220;your situation will change.&#8221; It was &#8220;you don&#8217;t have to be caught by it.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n<p>If you&#8217;ve been angry for a long time and you&#8217;re not sure why, our piece on <a href=\"https:\/\/bgodinspired.com\/index.php\/bible-resources\/bible-answers\/what-does-the-bible-say-about-anger\/\">what the Bible says about anger<\/a> goes deeper into what sits underneath it. And if you want practical help for the everyday version, try <a href=\"https:\/\/bgodinspired.com\/index.php\/real-life\/how-to-stop-letting-people-get-to-you\/\">how to stop letting people get to you<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n<h2>Actions to Take Today<\/h2>\n\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Name the bait.<\/strong> Think of the one thing that has offended you most this week. Write it in one short sentence. Then ask: what did I want that I didn&#8217;t get? Respect? Thanks? To be included? That want is the bait.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Wait before you touch the stick.<\/strong> The next time a message makes your chest tighten, put the phone face down and take three slow breaths before replying. Proverbs 19:11 calls this &#8220;discretion.&#8221; It is just space.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Say one good thing behind someone&#8217;s back.<\/strong> Jesus praised John after the messengers left. Think of the person who offended you. Tell someone else one true, good thing about them today. It is hard, and it loosens the trap.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n<p>If there&#8217;s an old hurt that has turned into a wall, our free <a href=\"https:\/\/bgodinspired.com\/index.php\/am-i-ready-to-forgive\/\">Am I Ready to Forgive?<\/a> quiz can help you see honestly where you are.<\/p>\n\n<h2>Journaling Prompts<\/h2>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Where in your life has God been present and working, but not doing the one thing you asked for? What have you been telling yourself about that?<\/li>\n<li>Think of an offence you have carried for more than a year. What has carrying it cost you that the other person never paid?<\/li>\n<li>Have you ever been the trap-stick for someone else, like Peter, meaning well but pulling them the wrong way?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<h2>A Prayer for When You&#8217;ve Been Offended<\/h2>\n\n<p><em>God, I have been caught. Someone said something, and I have been living inside it ever since. I don&#8217;t want to pretend it didn&#8217;t hurt, but I don&#8217;t want to stay trapped in it either. Like John, I have questions about why some doors haven&#8217;t opened. Help me trust You anyway, and help me walk past the bait today. Amen.<\/em><\/p>\n\n<h2>Discussion Question<\/h2>\n\n<p>Why do you think Jesus left the line about opening the prison out of His answer to John? Do you think it was a kindness, a test, or something else? Share your thoughts in the comments below.<\/p>\n\n<div class=\"convertkit-form wp-block-convertkit-form\" style=\"\"><script async data-uid=\"884942602c\" src=\"https:\/\/bgodinspired.kit.com\/884942602c\/index.js\" data-jetpack-boost=\"ignore\" data-no-defer=\"1\" data-no-optimize=\"1\" nowprocket><\/script><\/div>\n\n\n<h2>Share This<\/h2>\n\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;The Greek word for &#8216;offended&#8217; in the Bible comes from the trigger of a trap. I&#8217;m not being wronged. I&#8217;m being caught. Big difference.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Jesus told John the Baptist, sitting in prison, &#8216;blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me.&#8217; Don&#8217;t let a second prison close around your heart.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;It is his glory to pass over a transgression. Proverbs 19:11. Today I&#8217;m walking past the bait.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<h2>Questions and Answers About Being Offended<\/h2>\n\n<h3>What does the Bible say about being offended?<\/h3>\n<p>The Bible treats being offended as a trap rather than simply a hurt. The New Testament Greek word for offence, skandalon, originally described the trigger stick of a trap, and Jesus said &#8220;blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me&#8221; (Matthew 11:6). Proverbs 19:11 adds that &#8220;it is his glory to pass over a transgression,&#8221; meaning a wise person chooses not to be caught by an offence.<\/p>\n\n<h3>What does the Greek word skandalon mean?<\/h3>\n<p>Skandalon is the Greek word behind &#8220;offence&#8221; and &#8220;stumbling block&#8221; in the New Testament. Thayer&#8217;s Greek lexicon defines it as the movable stick or trigger of a trap, a trap-stick, and by extension a trap or snare. By New Testament times it was mostly used in the wider sense of a trap or stumbling block. The English word &#8220;scandal&#8221; comes from it.<\/p>\n\n<h3>Why did Jesus say &#8220;blessed is he who is not offended in me&#8221; to John the Baptist?<\/h3>\n<p>Jesus sent those words in Matthew 11:6 to John the Baptist, who was in prison and had asked whether Jesus was really the promised one. Jesus listed the miracles taking place, which echo promises from Isaiah, but did not mention the release of prisoners that Isaiah 61:1 also promised. The blessing invited John to keep trusting Jesus even though his own prison door had not opened.<\/p>\n\n<h3>Is it a sin to be offended?<\/h3>\n<p>The Bible does not treat feeling hurt as a sin, and it does not ask anyone to call real harm good. The warning is about being trapped by offence: holding onto it until it becomes a wall. Proverbs 18:19 says &#8220;a brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city,&#8221; showing how offence can lock people away from each other.<\/p>\n\n<h3>How do you stop being offended as a Christian?<\/h3>\n<p>A practical Christian approach to offence is to notice the bait before reacting. Name what you wanted and didn&#8217;t get, wait before replying to whatever triggered you, and choose to pass over the transgression as Proverbs 19:11 describes. 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